I think I can, I think I can…
Let’s face it, there are a 101 reasons why people struggle when comes to setting goals. Some are fearful of the commitment of them while others may hate the accountability of them. They are both valid feelings and reasons for people to have. But what if there was more to it than that?
There is a mental and psychological aspect that may surprise you when it comes to setting goals. It has to do with how we feel inside when we are unable to accomplish them. Feelings of anger, disappointment with ourselves and shame are just a few of the emotional feelings that can occur.
When that happens, we beat ourselves up and become our own worst enemy with statements we say to ourselves “I told you were a lazy bum!” and “You are a failure, once again!” These are obviously negative stories we tell ourselves that play into our stinking-thinking thoughts.
So what is it that holds us back from obtaining the goals we set for ourselves? Many times it has to do with our thought process itself and the goals our sub-conscience feels are more important that override our best intentions.
The important piece to understanding why this is so difficult for you to set and accomplish goals is to learn what in your mind holds you back. Is there something that your avoiding doing that your mind screams “this must be done first”?
Listen to what it is trying to tell you and then resolve to do that and get it done and out of the way. Talk through it with an advisor, consultant or coach if you need to in order to understand on a deeper level why you may be struggling with setting and accomplishing goals.
Left without addressing may leave you constantly battling to set and accomplish certain goals.
Have questions or needing help working through your goal setting challenges, let’s chat.